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Recently passed away, well 3 weeks ago.
She was at school studying for doc and she already had title doctor of philosophy (sp?).
She lived in central Europe.
She was 24 years old, she was turning 25 on dec 11.
The guy raped her and murdered her.
I never wanted post this but I cant ****ing get over it, i'm missing work, moody, I just cant forget ...it's hard i cant express my feelings.
The guy is going to be released because there is not enough evidence (rich ****er) :irate: :mad:
I'm really thinking going over there and kill him even if I will spend rest of my life in jail, after I'm done with him I will go to police and tell them what I did.
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Holy sh*t, sorry man. Can't express what I would feel or do in that situation.

However just remember, it won't solve anything by killing him, because then your parents lose two kids.
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Post by RoundEye »

Rivas, I really wish I knew what to say to console you about this, bit I’m not good with this kind of happenings.

Such a tragic loss of a beautiful woman is hard, especially being a sister.

The only thing I can say is try to talk it out with some family and friends, I’d be willing to bet they are harboring the same type of feelings, but choose not to say anything.

Rivas, this is a quote from a story I wrote quite some time ago about a friend of mine that was killed.

I can only hope this may help some,
……Over time you learn to live with it but you'll never forget it. Hell, I bet it's been over 25 years ago now. You just never forget, but those that are still alive need you and need you there for them…….
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umm wow.. no words can express how one should feel about that. Sorry dude
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Rivas,

I am sorry for your loss :( .

Don't do anything stupid. Your sister probably wold not want you to end up in jail.

That guy will get his karma. Some where some time he will slip up and will be nailed!
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Just tell me, what the **** is wrong with our society.
Pedophiles are being released after 10+ years of serving in jail, murderers have to wait 5+ years for death penalty, drugs are everywhere, if the dealer is busted he is out in couple of days, ****ing governments all over the world are protecting criminals.
And if cops are beating someone then it's all over the news.
Thats democracy ?
Give me a BREAK !@!@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And in most cases there is not enough evidence because witnesses are scared or the individual is so rich he can buy whatever he wants.

Heaven and hell, hah!!! in case there is hell all the "evil forces" have to be shocked what's going on over here.
****!
We are living, I just dont know, i'm so pissed.

edit: and look at her, she is in automobile forum in front of that mustang, that was 3-4 years ago when she was over here.
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Wow. I am very sorry man. :(
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nightowl wrote:Rivas,

I am sorry for your loss :( .

Don't do anything stupid. Your sister probably wold not want you to end up in jail.

That guy will get his karma. Some where some time he will slip up and will be nailed!
I agree with Nightowl. Rivas, I am truly sorry about what happened to her. Know that she is in a good space and in peace. Give yourself time to heal.
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very sorry to hear this. if he is mixed up in bad things, which apparenly he is. you should not do anything as sooner or later he will get got.

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I am so sorry. That is absolutely horrible.

Find a friend, relative or counsler you can talk to.
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Post by Randy »

Loss for words here

are you getting counsellings? I would definitely get some help. you will harbor feelings for the rest of your life and you need skills to deal with them.

I was going to post a link to that thread, but the SG search results for "bullsh|t" were too numerous

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nightowl wrote:Rivas,

I am sorry for your loss :( .

Don't do anything stupid. Your sister probably wold not want you to end up in jail.

That guy will get his karma. Some where some time he will slip up and will be nailed!

what he said :nod:
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Wow... :(
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:( How do you reply to a thread such as this? There are just no words for such a senseless wasted tragedy. I am so very, very sorry for your family loss. May you find comfort within them, and gain strength from each other to walk through this. My deepest condolences for you, Jamie, and all who will miss her. She lives on in your memory and heart...no one can take that away. She is not gone....she is just away, when you look inside and remember her and all the joys that she gave and shared with you...it's there within. Angel Blessings! :(
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Hi Rivas,

Nothing I can say will help, but I will pray for your sister, you, and your family.

I am so very sorry for your loss. God bless you.
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I am dreadfully sorry to hear that, Erik. My condolences to you and your family.

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I am so sorry for your loss. :cry:
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Rivas, Im so sorry for your loss, hang in there please

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I'm so sorry, for you loss... I'm sending you a PM.
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Ya it's hard, I have been talking with people who got problems but to be honest there are people in way worst situations than me but also it's (how to say it) it shows the way of life they are living, bad decisions, not able to leave abusive husbands, kids ...and the list goes on.That group is not for me, I didnt introduce myself and I didnt say whats wrong with me I just wanted to listen, they were ok with it.
I wish she can live in my heart but I dont have heart anymore, it's a rock and I'm not trying to say yeah Erik is the tough guy, I lost reason to live, I'm empty, mom is calling me every day and that makes me even more sad and I'm not picking up phone anymore.
And why did I post it here ? No I dont want you to feel sorry for me, just sent some prayers for her, I needed to vent, I'm so but so pissed I cant even explain it.
ALso feeling bad I survived that surgery this year, you know guys, why it's me who is living and not her, she had future, she was going to be doctor, I have been always black sheep of the family.
I just ..I dont know.

......thank you for your kind words, many of you have been with me when I got sick and I appreciate it, I'm never going to forget.
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bump one, for my pal Rivas. :(
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Post by Massa »

You have every right to feel the way you do, just remember to take a few days, or weeks if necessary to let your feelings sort themselves out, it's not possible for you to be rational at the moment. She didn't deserve this, but you can honor her memory and over time you will learn to cope with what you are feeling. I'm sorry for your loss Erik, be strong.
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