Advice...

Kyle · Post by **Kyle** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:40 pm

Alright... long story, here goes.

1 year ago this week I met a girl in an online game (don't start with me you old farts, if you dont like it leave now), we became good friends, eventually took it out of game, traded pics, talked several hours almost ever day for about 8 months, we became very close. 4 months ago she leaves for college in NY, she is supposed to have phone, internet all that stuff ready and I will see her again in 3-4 days... here I am 4 months later. From what I can gather from her brother (he and I are pretty good gaming buddys) she had a "falling out" with her parents and is now trying to support herself, and hence no internet. So my question is... do I ask her brother for her phone number and call her or wait and see what happens... I have been tossing this idea around for 2 months now.

Useful advice greatly appreciated, criticism will be ignored.
Kyler1

qball15j · Post by **qball15j** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:43 pm

Ask him for her phone number...

For sure!

Immortal · Post by **Immortal** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:43 pm

I usually don't have great advice but I'd say get the number.

I'm pretty sure she will be quite happy to hear from you. I think she might need some support now if you can provide any. Even if not, listening to her will always help.

It sounds like you care about her and that she does care about you. I'm betting she misses you as much as you do.

Go ahead, give her a ring-a-ding-ding.

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:45 pm

dude, bite the bullet and ask the question!!

Hell, tonight, I whent against my nature and rather then walking off and regretting never getting to know this girl I've known since first grade out of school, I got her e-mail address

axtrader · Post by **axtrader** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:46 pm

Seems to me you're already waiting to see what happens, and you're dissatisfied with the results. My advice, get the number and give her a call.

Best of luck.

cableboy · Post by **cableboy** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:46 pm

Originally posted by Kyler1

(don't start with me you old farts, if you dont like it leave now),

hahahahah I love it

Kyle · Post by **Kyle** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:48 pm

Thanks for the quick response and support guys. Gave me the extra boost I need... tommarow I will ask for the number. If you are religious pray, if you beleive in luck, wish it to me, I need all the help I can get. Will tell you how it goes.

Thank you,
Kyler1

P.S. If it turns out well I will reward with some pics.

jayyy · Post by **jayyy** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:48 pm

Call her man! Let her know where you're coming from.

Immortal · Post by **Immortal** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:49 pm

Good luck.

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Tue Feb 10, 2004 11:52 pm

Originally posted by Immortal
Good luck.

what he said

ghost · Post by **ghost** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 12:11 am

If she wanted to contact you, do you think she'd have done so already? It seems strange to me that if you two were so close that she hasn't tried to contact you somehow. She had your number, right? What do you think about this?

vinnie · Post by **vinnie** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 12:14 am

The question isn't should you get her number... it's why didn't you do it two months ago? Waiting two months doesn't seem like you're all that concerned about talking to her...

If I'm out of contact for 12 hours with my partner I get antsy. Two months seems a bizarrely long period of time.

Kyle · Post by **Kyle** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 12:18 am

Ghost - No she didnt have my number, it's all been text and pics so far.

Vinnie - I had no way of getting in contact with her for that period of time, drove myself crazy trying to think of a way to find her, eventually I dug up her brothers email address from one of my lost email accounts. He and I had played in the online game before and we picked up where we left off. But I didn't ask him right away cause thats making it look like I didn't even care about him... which it is gonna look like anyway, lol.

jayyy · Post by **jayyy** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 12:18 am

Originally posted by ghost
If she wanted to contact you, do you think she'd have done so already? It seems strange to me that if you two were so close that she hasn't tried to contact you somehow. She had your number, right? What do you think about this?

She's broke poor, had a major fight with her parents and doesn't even have the net to contact him on. i think she has other things on her mind

Even if she didn't what harm is there in just calling and finding out for sure? Why be so reluctant about it?

Kyler1, don't think about things on those terms. What you know for sure is what *you* want- You like her so call her. Not like you're trying to steal her stereo!

For me in a situation like that its a matter of principle. Its not about knowing what she'll say 100%, its about being the kind of person that does what he feels. Don't sit around, wait, and then wonder what would've happened.

ScottE · Post by **ScottE** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 12:27 am

Yeah, do what you gotta do man.

You don't want to be sitting around some 40 and over bar getting wasted talking about some girl you once played internet games with.

Kyle · Post by **Kyle** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 6:22 pm

Update!

Terrance: ah
Kyle: Terrance I need to ask you something..... You know i like Jess right?
Terrance: sorry went to get the mail, and yeah I know you two were pretty close
Kyle: lol, the long silence was becoming disconsorting
Terrance: lol sorry
Kyle: I miss jess more than anything in the world...
Terrance: aw.... D:
Kyle: I want to talk to her and see how she is doing... do you think I should/could call her...? You would need to give me her number, would you do that for me?
Kyle: If she doesnt want to talk to me I will not bother her...
Terrance: oh man... i'm sorry dude but I havent talked to her in months since she had to move out
Terrance: what I can do is ask one of her friends for her new number though
Terrance: and once I get it i'll give it to ya
Kyle: Thank you so much!
Kyle: *sweating like a horse*
Terrance: lol calm down dude
Kyle: lol
Terrance: last time I talked to her she was asking how you were, but me and you didnt talk at the time so I didnt have any good news for her
Terrance: didnt help that I didnt know any of your sn's
Kyle: I wondered if she even remembered me...
Kyle: this is the greatest news i have gotten in months
Kyle: TY SO MUCH! lol

I am shaking right now...
Kyler1

Kyle · Post by **Kyle** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 6:27 pm

As promised...

Thanks again everyone... I might have never done this if it wasn't for the support, I owe you all more than you could ever know.

Kyler1

sito · Post by **sito** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 6:28 pm

from what you just described, YES!

She just may need a friend and eventually....who knows.

Edit..good 4 u!

Spicer · Post by **Spicer** » Wed Feb 11, 2004 6:29 pm

Pride can play a big role in the thoughts of most people...

I'm glad you got the number..Remember she might have wanted to call many times, but feels she *Might Not* have much to offer because of her present Financial/Emotional State...

Be Cool Man....Show her strength and stability, I'm sure at this present time in her life...She is looking for a Strong Shoulder...

Be that shoulder....

Spice.... Cheers Man!

Bastid · Post by **Bastid** » Thu Feb 12, 2004 2:19 am

good for you dude....what would you have lost?

cute girl, btw

kmax · Post by **kmax** » Thu Feb 12, 2004 8:22 am

Originally posted by Kyler1
As promised...

Thanks again everyone... I might have never done this if it wasn't for the support, I owe you all more than you could ever know.

Kyler1

HI2U!!!! PM ME NUDES...KTHXBYE

wee96 · Post by **wee96** » Thu Feb 12, 2004 7:22 pm

Hope all turns out for the best with your situation bud

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